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What do you owe yourself?
We’re all trying to make a better day, week, month, year and life for ourselves. We want this at work and at home. We all have different ways we’re trying to get there. It’s a difficult thing to do on an ongoing basis – and in all aspects of your life. The bottom line is there are certain things you owe yourself in order to make the “better” happen for yourself.
You owe yourself a debt of gratitude.
The primary reason you are where you’re at is because you played a large part in getting there. Thank yourself just as much as you thank the others that helped along the way. Don’t shout it to the world – just say it so you can hear. More importantly, make sure you listen.
You owe yourself time.
Time to get the job done. Time to spend with those you want to spend time with. Time for yourself. Make good on that. If you spend the time you owe yourself on things that don’t mean much to you, it’s like putting money in a bad investment. You’re a good investment. Pay yourself first and the rest will come…especially if you’re being true to yourself.
You owe yourself rest.
Get some sleep. Take a break. Better yet, give yourself a break. Recharge those batteries and you’ll recharge your life – at work and home. Rest up…it’s a long road that we all travel on.
Dear you, so many things have happened in life that have tested me time and time again. Things that have tested my resilience, my patience, my love, my mental and physical health, and just me. I have gone through a lot of things that I will probably open up about more as time goes on and I feel comfortable to do so.
But something happened fairly recently that just put me through the grinder when I thought I was done being defeated.
It just goes to show you that life can hit you with things at unexpected moments.
Now here’s the thing, sometimes it’s okay to be sad. Sometimes it’s okay to wake up and not feel the best. It’s okay to drag your butt to work or school or to feel down for no reason at all. There are some days that just feel like that and it’s totally natural. There are some days where I wake up and feel unhappy or down for no reason at all. That’s not to say that I’m not thankful, blessed, or grateful for everything I do have in life—-and gosh do I dislike it when people tell me to be happy like it’s the easiest thing to do in the world, when it’s not. They make it sound like I have so much to be happy for and I know I do, but they don’t understand that sometimes unhappiness for a day doesn’t equate to being ungrateful for everything—–it’s due to this feeling of just not being happy at the moment.
But there was one week last February where I just felt good. I woke up, go to class, and did my thing. I had a fairly good attitude about things. I didn’t feel as alone. I didn’t feel tired or weak. I was just good. And that was better than how I felt the other week before that—–tired, sad, lonely, and moody.
And then came that Friday and everything just fell to pieces inside of me.
I have never cried so hard, so badly, so vigorously, and so unapologetically in my life. I have never cried so much that my hands were shaking, my eyes were glazed and crossing over, my head hurting until the point I felt dizzy when I walked. NEVER. And I’ve had my fair share of dramatic break downs in full out sobs. But I have never felt like I was going to faint from crying and it was THE WORST feeling in my life that I NEVER want to put myself through or experience again. bmoinin replied 220 days ago
You owe yourself a debt of gratitude.
The primary reason you are where you’re at is because you played a large part in getting there. Thank yourself just as much as you thank the others that helped along the way. Don’t shout it to the world – just say it so you can hear. More importantly, make sure you listen.
You owe yourself time.
Time to get the job done. Time to spend with those you want to spend time with. Time for yourself. Make good on that. If you spend the time you owe yourself on things that don’t mean much to you, it’s like putting money in a bad investment. You’re a good investment. Pay yourself first and the rest will come…especially if you’re being true to yourself.
You owe yourself rest.
Get some sleep. Take a break. Better yet, give yourself a break. Recharge those batteries and you’ll recharge your life – at work and home. Rest up…it’s a long road that we all travel on.
Dear you, so many things have happened in life that have tested me time and time again. Things that have tested my resilience, my patience, my love, my mental and physical health, and just me. I have gone through a lot of things that I will probably open up about more as time goes on and I feel comfortable to do so.
But something happened fairly recently that just put me through the grinder when I thought I was done being defeated.
It just goes to show you that life can hit you with things at unexpected moments.
Now here’s the thing, sometimes it’s okay to be sad. Sometimes it’s okay to wake up and not feel the best. It’s okay to drag your butt to work or school or to feel down for no reason at all. There are some days that just feel like that and it’s totally natural. There are some days where I wake up and feel unhappy or down for no reason at all. That’s not to say that I’m not thankful, blessed, or grateful for everything I do have in life—-and gosh do I dislike it when people tell me to be happy like it’s the easiest thing to do in the world, when it’s not. They make it sound like I have so much to be happy for and I know I do, but they don’t understand that sometimes unhappiness for a day doesn’t equate to being ungrateful for everything—–it’s due to this feeling of just not being happy at the moment.
But there was one week last February where I just felt good. I woke up, go to class, and did my thing. I had a fairly good attitude about things. I didn’t feel as alone. I didn’t feel tired or weak. I was just good. And that was better than how I felt the other week before that—–tired, sad, lonely, and moody.
And then came that Friday and everything just fell to pieces inside of me.
I have never cried so hard, so badly, so vigorously, and so unapologetically in my life. I have never cried so much that my hands were shaking, my eyes were glazed and crossing over, my head hurting until the point I felt dizzy when I walked. NEVER. And I’ve had my fair share of dramatic break downs in full out sobs. But I have never felt like I was going to faint from crying and it was THE WORST feeling in my life that I NEVER want to put myself through or experience again. bmoinin replied 220 days ago
